And let’s not forget that I’m just a theme song word for word, but couldn’t for the life of me name ONE song from Kanye’s latest album. I mean, if I can manage to balance everything life throws my way while parenting an infant at my young age, I can certainly handle dating. Still, to sharpen my skills before heading into the trenches, I asked a few experts for advice on navigating the dating scene as a single 20-something mom. Sure, it used to seem like great fun to get tipsy and swipe right on potential hookups less than 10 miles away—20, if he or she is really hot—but apps like Tinder are more likely to land just that: A hookup and not a serious dating candidate.
“Swiping apps shouldn’t be your screening process for dates,” says Dr.
There are plenty, like me, who are blissfully lacking in life experience, have yet to reach the big 3-0, and spend more time swiping left on Tinder instead.
Real talk: Considering the 200 different directions I’m pulled in each day—which include working full time; waking up with my six-month-old daughter at ungodly hours; cooking; cleaning; carpooling; bathing; co-parenting; dealing with temper tantrums; and still attempting to take care of myself—the mere of dating can sometimes seem nothing short of impossible.
If you've recently matched with a single mom and are enjoying the starts of a beautiful friendship with benefits, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Unless you bump into mother and child at the farmers market, you aren't likely to ever meet your F-buddy's offspring. Moms don't want to confuse their children by meeting every casual hookup.
The child is already dealing with not having a mother and father married to each other and living together, and needs parental attention.
That child does not need to compete with you, and you don’t need to compete with that child.
Generally, though, if the relationship is casual, I have found in the past that there's little interest in knowing about the kids anyway." -- If you are hanging out at her place after the child goes to bed, you might think you can spend the night and just sneak out before the little one wakes up.
Jenn Mann, host and lead psychotherapist of VH1’s “Couples Therapy with Dr.
Jenn,” and author of For better results when checking out prospects online, “focus on characteristics, qualities, and life desires,” adds Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist, clinician and author of the relationship wellness blog, That means that if they didn’t bother to include those interests in their profile, they’re probably not worth a date.
Think again: kids get up early, and lots of parents are awakened by a toddler face staring at them first thing in the morning.
"If I have a sitter lined up for Thursday night, it's not like a regular date where things can be moved on a whim.